When is the Best Time to Tell People You’re Pregnant?

It’s important to say that the best time to tell people when you are pregnant is entirely up to you. There is no right or wrong time.

You may want to tell your family and friends immediately, or wait to know how you feel.

Your family may not react to your pregnancy how you expect, so you may want to discuss this with your midwife beforehand.

This guide will help you decide the time to announce a pregnancy, who to tell, and more.

Factors to consider before telling people you’re pregnant

Before telling people you’re pregnant, here are some things you may want to consider:

• Your preference – consider your circumstances and comfort level because the decision is yours and is deeply personal.
• The risk of miscarriage – miscarriages are most likely to occur in the first trimester, so many wait until 12 weeks pregnant because of the reduced risk.
• Your readiness – you need to be completely comfortable sharing the news, so consider whether you are emotionally ready.

How to decide when it’s the right time for you

The following can help you make the best decision on when to announce your pregnancy:

• Listen to your gut – don’t let the opinions of others pressure you into making the wrong decision.
• Talk about your pregnancy with your partner or someone you trust.
• Create a plan for the announcement – come up with ideas that reflect the chosen timing.

Milestones for announcing your pregnancy

While the decision is your choice, there are some typical milestones for deciding when to announce your pregnancy.

For example, the first trimester (1-12 weeks) is a popular time to announce. You may want to share the excitement with your family and close friends as soon as you can. Additionally, your family and friends can support you when you experience the symptoms of early pregnancy.

You may also consider the second trimester (13-26 weeks) for several reasons, including:

• The decreased risk of pregnancy ending in miscarriage.
• You will likely show signs of pregnancy during this time, making it a natural time to tell people.
• You will receive multiple medical scans and check-ups, reassuring you about the baby’s health.

To make the moment even more special, consider saving the announcement for a special occasion, such as:

• Holidays, like Christmas or Easter
• Birthdays or anniversaries
• Family get-togethers or reunions.

Who should you tell that you’re pregnant, and when?

Family and close friends

Sharing your pregnancy early with your close family and friends provides a comprehensive support network during the first trimester. Those you trust will offer advice and emotional reassurance and help you during symptoms and morning sickness.

Consider each individual; some may react differently and take more time to process the news.

Ensure you make it clear to your friends and family if you want them to keep the announcement private.

Children

If you have children, it is up to you when to tell them, but they may find out from listening to other people.

Once you tell them, they may have multiple questions about how it happens. 

You can also involve the children by:

• Letting them feel your tummy
• Showing them where their new brother or sister will sleep
• Asking them for help when choosing toys and books.

Announcing pregnancy in the workplace

You must inform your employers of your pregnancy at least 15 weeks before the due date to qualify for maternity leave. Once informed, your employer is legally required to conduct a workplace risk assessment.

The second trimester is a popular time to inform employers, but you may want to tell them earlier if your job involves certain risks, such as heavy lifting.

Schedule a private meeting with your HR rep or manager to inform them. Have an idea of how you will manage your workload during this time, as they will likely want to discuss this.

Announcing pregnancy publicly

If you intend to announce your pregnancy publicly on social media, you may want to tell your closest friends and family first. You may hurt their feelings if they find out after a public announcement.

Deciding when to publicly announce your pregnancy is a personal choice. Still, it can be a good idea to wait to share the news until a significant milestone, such as gender confirmation.

More information

We advise contacting your midwife for pregnancy-related support, but they will say that deciding when to announce your pregnancy is down to personal preference.

For other related queries, see our pages on how to plan for your pregnancy and parenthood and the NHS page on finding out you’re pregnant.